How Healthy Is Your Relationship? A Self-Assessment

Many students enter into a romantic relationship during college.  The beginning of the relationship is often exhilarating and easy.  As time goes on, a healthy relationship requires good communication and cooperation between partners.  The quality of our relationships affects our lives in many ways, including our self-esteem, our ability to handle stress, and our academic and work-related productivity.  The following questionnaire can help you identify the health of the relationship that you have with your significant other.

 

Answer each question with a simple “yes” or “no.”

1. My partner and I have good communication.
2. We have trust in one another.
3. There is mutual respect between us.
4. We have common interests.
5. We are able to perceive things differently without expecting each other to see things the other’s way.
6. I feel valued intellectually, emotionally, and if intimate, physically.
7. I am able to grow independently, and I support my partner’s growth, thus our relationship is also able to grow.
8. We have activities and friends outside the relationship.
9. We accept each other and do not try to change one another.
10. Our relationship adds joy to my life.

 If you answered “no” to any of the above questions you may want to explore the health of your relationship.  Speaking with a counselor can be very helpful in clarifying any doubts or concerns that you have.