What are you looking for in a Partner?

• Expectations for attention, emotional support and affection carry implicit expectations for time together.

Please rank the following personal qualities:

1= most important quality to you; 18=least important quality.

____    neat/organized                             

____    financially responsible

____    sense of humor/funny                 

____    physically fit/athletic

____    spontaneous/adventurous           

____    caring/sensitive

____    confident                                        

____    religious

____    ambitious                                       

____    family oriented/would make a good parent

____    playful/fun to be with                  

____    understanding             

____    intelligent                          

____    honest/trustworthy               

____    physically attractive   

____    wealthy

____    communicative   

____    affectionate

•  What did you have as your number 1 quality? What did you have as the least important quality?
• What do you think is the determining factor in whether partners feel satisfied with sex, romance, and passion in their relationship? Research shows, by 70%, the quality of the couple’s friendship. This is applicable to both men and women. (Gottman & Silver, 1999)
• As John Gottman would say, friendship fuels the flames of romance. (Gottman & Silver, 1999)
• Most of the qualities that you ordered are also related to what you would look for in a friend.
• Love is friendship caught on fire