Darlene Polak is the wedding coordinator at USD's Founders Chapel, where hundreds of alumni tie the knot each year.

Going to the Chapel
If you're having a church wedding, research the guidelines for your denomination, contact your priest, rabbi or minister nine to 18 months in advance and take advantage of preparation programs.

Tidy Bridey
A three-ring binder can keep the event from being a three-ring circus. Buy one, along with a three-hole punch. You'll be inundated with information — price sheets for florists, song lists for disc jockeys and, of course, pages torn out of bridal magazines with the latest bridal fashions. Here are some helpful categories: deadlines; bridal attire; caterers; ceremony locations; flowers; hair and makeup; honeymoon hot spots; invitations; limousines; musicians or DJs; party favors; photographers; reception locations; tuxedo rentals; and videographers.

Don't Botch the Budget
Simplicity is the key to an enjoyable event that won't break the bank. Think of a wedding K.I.S.S. and "Keep it So Simple." A simple theme or color can help you stay on budget. Only purchase what fits into your selected theme or color scheme. Because you're planning early, take advantage of seasonal or after-season sales, bulk purchases or discount stores.

Don't be Contrary When You Marry
Laughter, a baby's cry, cheers and tears will make the day more memorable. Resolve to be cheerful no matter what. Your guests won't notice if you forget the steps to your first dance, if bridesmaid No. 4 has different color shoes or if Aunt Sally won't sit with Uncle Fred. All they'll remember is your love, your happiness and your radiant smile.